Just as I am?
unacceptable.
It's the others that is expected of.

Help: something you give others but expecting any back is a mere disappointment.
Yes you should ask but it's so obvious to others but they don't do anything. If you ask, it spoils the whole thing. Do you tell the teacher you need to go for recess when it's so obvious recess is already going on?
Do the weather forecast people advise people to stay indoors when a hailstorm currently going on has killed many people?
They should do it by themselves, they should do it beforehand.

Just a mess.