Words we speak, actions we take, people just don't seem to understand sometimes.
When we say something, we have to take into consideration of our stand.
Where were we before we said this?
What're others' impression of us right before we say what we had to say?
If we don't take into consideration what they think right before we speak, we give off a totally different message.
A message that is later on either misunderstood for something else, something false, or something for real if it isn't actually for real.
If it doesn't affect others' impression of us, or we're not misunderstood, we catch the others off guard in a whole load of troubles they already have on their mind.
Did we think before we say something? Are they able to hear what we say?
Are they capable?
Picture a man who has suicide on his mind already. He is at the brink of making a firm stand whether to commit suicide or not in a few minutes.
Then comes along his friend who says to him, "Hey, I've told you so many times to clear the trash, when're you going to clean it? I hate procrastinators and dirty people like you."
Having that said, the man loses his marbles and minutes later the man jumps off a building.
We should just be watchful when we say things, not say what we feel and want to say.
To be more considerate is what we should be.
When we watch others in what they do, to catch their flaws and find their wrongs, did we do that to ourselves first?
Before we talk about others, did we take a look in the mirror to see if what we're trying to prove wrong in other people can actually be found on us?
Thieves don't catch thieves. Both have their hands equally covered in dirt, so neither one can catch the other and say that they're wrong.
If a person is accused of a crime which he did not do or did not intend to do, and we are the victims of the act, do we point our accusation finger and bombard him to our hearts content?
In the first place, do we even know the real situation? or we just want to point an accusing finger at him and make the supposedly innocent look guilty?
Have we even heard the other side of the story?
Both sides have different stories, but neither side is entirely true.
The rights to speak comes when one isn't speaking according to ones own emotions.
Because emotions don't speak of the entire truth.
When emotions overwhelm, we think too much.
This thoughts of ours can even make the false look true.
Extreme strong emotions can even cause the mind to be unable to differentiate between what was actually just a thought and what is actually true.
And with the influence of the media, we find the 'solution' and something to clear our minds.
People say they try, but there's no difference.
Perseverance will help us change, but just a little effort won't make much of a change for us, especially in the eyes of others.
We give up, and we say we can't when the fact is that we have not given it our best shot.
We say what we think the way things are, we say what we want as reality when it actually isn't.
We say so many things according to our hearts and emotions just so that we don't see the real situation.
We build walls of stories and fairy tales around us, so that we don't have to come back to reality.
We're just too afraid to face reality.
Saying all these, it's not from what I think should be or could be, but what was, is, and always will be.
I say things not of just simple thoughts, but of what I've observed and experienced for the past 18 years of my life.
Compared to both experiences and observations, simple thoughts are no where close to what these two can teach.
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Some words are not meant to be said.
Some truths are not meant to be told, just so that friendship won't be lost through something that might not worth anything later on.
Sometimes the truth hurts, sometimes it even destroys.
That's why I keep it all away, because I don't want to lose what I need so badly for something that I don't really need.
I keep it all away, so that everything seems fine and normal.
I keep it all away for everyone's sake.
1 comment:
Because you can keep it all away, and that's why you do. And because you know not the feeling of not being able to belong to somewhere, no matter how much you have felt, indeed experience varies in everyone. My will to be able to please them is not as strong as yours, I am selfish but an idealist.
I was right to think you would be the best choice to handle the situation, to take care of them, as I always say. You can indeed do what I couldn't. To try and to fail in trying, they are equal in my eyes, unfortunately.
Remember what I asked of you. I still never change that stance, no matter what has happened.
I never sought what they call friendship. It is merely a word, not because I wanted it to be so, though. I sought trust and a sense of belonging, both of which I once had. But well, time can't rewind itself to the point where it was still there.
Your words cut me deep, I am that sensible to feel it. But I understand your position, your analogies, whatever you say. Yet I hope you do not think of me as a stubborn suicidal-like persona not able to think of change. Only because the past can't be changed, that I remain unchanged.
Stay the same, my dearest friend. Because you can.
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